leader or dictator

Those in leadership who have fear of loosing their position, tend to rule using fear! And anything that will cause fear is fair game! And the more fear felt by the leaders subjects, the better for that leader! It means that people will do what they are told, when they are told and how they are told, no questions asked! It takes a very strong person to rise up and stand against the fear! People who have the guts to speak the truth and stand against the fear tend to find themselves under huge amounts of pressure to "change their thinking"! All kinds of 'tools' will be used in order to persuade a change!
Leadership that is based in fear has the potential to become a dictatorship! We've seen what has happened in history with various dictators and leaders of fear! Something eventually causes their downfall!

Leadership and fear should not be mixed! Leadership should be don't in love, with every effort being made to lead people, not force or coerce them.
Jesus showed us how to lead others. He lead them by being their servant! He washed their feet, He prayed for them, He healed them, He drove out their demons. He did all that He was told by His Father to do!
The only way to lead without fear is to know God and know what He says about you! Jesus knew what God said about Him - This is my SON in whom I am well pleased! Jesus knew and believed what His father said about Him!
To be gracious, gentle but strong leaders, we need to be hearing and believing what God says about us! We need to do what the Father tells us! And we need to do it in love!
Going to bible college has the potential to make a good preacher, but not necessarily a good leader!
Being a good takes courage, strength and humility!
God makes an awesome leader, because He is gentle and humble in heart. He has compassion for those who need it, He has grace for others, He has kindness which leads to repentance. He knows when to serve His people and when to chastise them. He has wisdom to guide His people through lifes storms.
If you wish to be a leader of any kind, I strongly recommend that you learn to spend time in Gods presence. He will make you into the kind of leader He wants you to be! And where God is, fear can not reside!